(Relationship Q) Is this true...?

Let me 1st tell u...


I am single and i want a girlfriend but is it true that i should start being happy on my own 1st and then i'll be ready for a relationship?


Because i think when i go out i start to act or feel desperate and i'm sure thats sending out the wrong vibe!


Plus i think once i'm happy on the inside especially when i start doing the things thats gonna make me happy i will then most probably attract a girl and would'nt act all needy!


I've probably answered this myself but i would like to know your opinons!


Just incase u was wondering about the things i plan on doing,well they are...


Wing Chun (Chinese martial arts) and Art (I'm a pretty good drawer!)

(Relationship Q) Is this true...?
Yes - you have to be able to stand on your own two feet and know that your happiness is not reliant on another person to find true and lasting happiness. How can anyone love you if you don't love yourself?





Someone who truly loves you helps you to be a better person and is someone you can share your life and happiness with - they don't complete you, they don't make you happy, you do.





You sound like a lovely and sensitive person. Try investigating a little deeper into some Chinese philosophy, I think it might help you both in your Martial arts and your search for happiness. Then I can see a day when a fit, sensitive, centered and cultured young man (you) is inundated with admirers.
Reply:seems to me you got the right idea
Reply:For sure. My boyfriend used to always be sad without actually saying anything. He always depended on me to be happy enough for the both of us, and would get almost mad when I wasn't.





Personal happieness is the most importatn part of any relationship. But it's not possible to be happy all the time, and remember that she will get sad too!
Reply:yeah i think you should first be happy and content with yourself before trying to get into a relationship, you cant make someone else happy if you're unhappy
Reply:you may not have to be happy on your own as such.....just confident!!! the classes you are starting will help you with this......but generally the rule is ul find sum1 when you stop looking!! good luck!
Reply:become confident in yourself and people will be drawn towards your confidence.
Reply:dude i think you answered your own question
Reply:Hey you just be yourself, if the girl is worth your time and affection , she has to love you for you. Dont get hung up on feeling needy, as you say get out there and enjoy yourself!You should feel comfortable with yourself, and when you do people will get to see a good person that you are!:D Dont pass each day worrying bout attracting women, enjoy single life until it changes and you do find someone you like, until then take it easy!have fun! Hope that helped good luck!xxx
Reply:Good idea to feel happy with yourself first, before you bring someone else into the picture.
Reply:yes build up your friendships and social life and you will attract the right girl
Reply:Danny if you think your not giving of good vibes well the best way to make sure you are is smile.


when you see some one smile it makes you feel good and want to smile back, trust me mate it never fails when your out get ur teeth out and smile
Reply:it is right,you have to love yourself before you can love someone else or your insecurities could cause alot of damaging issues in the relationship.


woman will also find you more attractive if you have interests of your own.


it certainly isnt healthy to NEED a partner coz you dont like being alone


good luck
Reply:I think you are on the right track. If you find fulfillment and happiness yourself first while developing your hobbies, you will most likely meet people and make friends (including women) while you're at it. Pursuing your own interests is a great way to meet and get to know well-adjusted people, or at least people who want stability and fulfillment in their lives, like you seem to. Good luck!
Reply:Mate that's the way it will always be, when you're miserable and single you can go out and not get a single look the whole day, then as soon as you've got a bird you'll get hundreds more giving you the eye. It sounds like you need to take it slowly and get to know some nice girls, then when it's right you'll know... if you're worried about being negative then you will be negative and probably not get too far
Reply:Hi Danny,





Iv just read some of the responses to your question and first of all i wanna say that 'jizzmop' is a real sap!!!!!! Your attitude to life and relationships is brilliant. A guy that actually thinks in your way will have real luck when you meet the right girl and she will be just as lucky. You sound like a top guy putting thoughts and feelings before sex and stupidness. I hope it all works out for you.
Reply:I was single for 3 years from aged 28, I had more sex in those 3 years than i have had in the 4 i've been with my girlfriend. The reason? I put it down to not giving a toss whether i trapped or not( and yes non-believers, i wasn't remotely interested ) because i wass happy to be myself and go do what i had to do and the confidence showed and for some reason thats a turn on. I'm an average looking guy and i'm no arrogant tosser but i even had 3 in one day(all lookers)! But it was never about how much where or when. Just have fun doing what you want, being who you want to be and some lucky lady will turn up when the time is right, usually when you least expect it speaking from experience. Seems like your a decent mature guy.
Reply:Yep you are on the right track... If you look too desperate when you are out and about it is a real turn off.... It is better to be cool and calm... and clean! Hope you don't smoke.... or get too drunk as that just looks so immature... you will meet someone, I know its a cliche but probably when you least expect to! Good luck!